What do you look for in a girl/guy? This should be good, meh heh. Also, which Anime..

[uc pseudonym]

And now, a post in a completely different direction, which is why I'm giving it a post by itself. Certain individuals have been bugging me about my lack of participation in the original intent of this thread. Very well:

1. Possesses a message in large flames from God ordering me to marry them.

If I feel led, I will except medium sized flames.

[Solid Ronin]

0_o

[uc pseudonym]

I've been meaning to respond to your pm, Ronin, I've just been busy. I'll give you something more in depth as soon as I finish the rest of my CAA business.

[Solid Ronin]

im sure you have Master you need not over me its just I dont have the smarts to understand what your last post

[MasterDias]

excepting movie stars, who divorce people every lunch break or so.

Heh, ain't it the truth.

Anyway, my qualifiacations for a wife:

1. is a Christian.
2. has my interests (anime, manga, video games, books, etc.)
3. agrees with (most of) my views on different things.
4. Intelligent, Independent(can make essential decisions on her own when I'm not around.)
5. can cook decently (hey, I figure one of us better know how and since I can't...)
6. is cute (hey, that's always a bonus)

Those are all I can thing of at the moment.

[Rev. Doc]

A word about everyone who listed looks (and I paint with a broad brush). Such a transient trait. Look at pictures of your parents years ago... most of the time they look incredibly different. Some couples I know have four or five different phases, during each of which their appearances totally change. Think about it honestly... your body starts going downhill (in an overall sense) at about age 40. Assuming you intend to live a while, you could spend two thirds of your life with your spouse deteriorating, every day becoming less than you once were, leading up toward inevitable death. Most people lose their looks quickly, even faster if the other person has youthful standards (as most youth today do). The merest fraction of anyone's marraige will be with a person who looks the same as they did on the day of marraige...

I...I'm feeling so depressed

[uc pseudonym]

Um... sorry? The only actual intention was to point out how little such things matter, which is why other qualities matter so much more.

And don't be hard on yourself, Ronin.

[shooraijin]

> I...I'm feeling so depressed

Awwwww! (It depresses me too ... *considers blanking out birthdate*)

[Rev. Doc]

Um... sorry? The only actual intention was to point out how little such things matter, which is why other qualities matter so much more.

No prob. It will take more than receding hairlines, loss of teeth, fuzzy vision, geritol parties, and frequent pitstops to get me down. After all, my lady still loves me.

[uc pseudonym]

Apparently I start talking and people get depressed. I've been dealing with that my whole life. I doubt I can ever make anyone feel better, which is why I generally keep my trap shut. Glad you understand what's really important, Rev. Doc.

[Solid Ronin]

You take me too literally, anonymous.

A word about everyone who listed looks (and I paint with a broad brush). Such a transient trait. Look at pictures of your parents years ago... most of the time they look incredibly different. Some couples I know have four or five different phases, during each of which their appearances totally change. Think about it honestly... your body starts going downhill (in an overall sense) at about age 40. Assuming you intend to live a while, you could spend two thirds of your life with your spouse deteriorating, every day becoming less than you once were, leading up toward inevitable death. Most people lose their looks quickly, even faster if the other person has youthful standards (as most youth today do). The merest fraction of anyone's marraige will be with a person who looks the same as they did on the day of marraige... excepting movie stars, who divorce people every lunch break or so.

that was one of the smartest thing ive ever heard

[Shinja]

i under stand what you saying UC that is very true, but i think beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and while our bodys will enevitably fall apart the beauty will still remain. just in a differant way. cause phisical beauty may draw people togeather at the start it will not hold them togeather.

[Solid Ronin]

right on Shinja

[Solid Ronin]

And now, a post in a completely different direction, which is why I'm giving it a post by itself. Certain individuals have been bugging me about my lack of participation in the original intent of this thread. Very well:

1. Possesses a message in large flames from God ordering me to marry them.

If I feel led, I will except medium sized flames.

wait I had trouble understanding that O God im already losing it just like that rush song

[FireStarter2003]

Aight peoplez,

Here's kinda my list of what I'd want in my future wife (not necessarily in precise order, except for #1 and 2):

1. Firm, strong Christian walk
2. Gotta love God above all things (even me)
3. Gotta be totally in love with me! (cuz if da love ain't there, it ain't gonna work!)
4. Heart for ministry (cuz I'll be pastoring & stuff)
5. Similar & complementary anointing & spiritual gifts
6. She has to love kids (I want a mother for my children, not a drill sergeant!)
7. Gotta cook good! (that's not to say that I won't ever cook, but they do say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach)
8. Shared interest and love for Japanese culture, anime, manga, and the martial arts (definitely not afraid to pick up a shinai and whack away!)
9. Similar political views (ain't plannin' to argue about who to vote for in the elections!)
10. Loves to travel (i.e. road trips, flying, cruises, etc.)
11. Physical traits: either blonde white girl (my main preference) or Japanese (they're hot too!). But since God is VERY creative, perhaps it shouldn't surprise me if I end up marrying a blonde-haired, Japanese-American girl!
12. Height: I'm 5' 8", so a few inches shorter than me
13. Figure: physically fit and able to make my head turn

This list is by no means exhaustive, but kinda gives an idea of things I dig. If any of you ladies fit these qualifications, please e-mail your resume, along with your photo to me, and I will definitely look you up lol (Just kidding!)

[Destroyer2000]

Hm. No one I've seen said that looks made any important difference to them. They all said it would be nice. That post made me feel like I was being lectured. Most of us here understand that looks aren't the most important thing, and that they will change. But are you saying you wouldn't want to have a cute wife?

Anyway, as someone said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Meaning, someone that's cute to me might not be cute to you. If you truly love them, you'll be physically attracted to them no matter what they look like.

[FireStarter2003]

Hiya Destroyer2000,

Obviously, looks are not the most important thing in the world, cuz as you pointed out, looks do change. Spirituality and personality are much more essential. However, let's not rule out that one of the first things that we do notice about people is looks. That may be bad at times, but it seems God has built that into us. There's gotta be an attraction, and in some way, looks do play a part, albeit a small role compared to other deeper factors. However, sometimes we don't give the physical attraction factor enough credit. I hope you're not getting the impression that I'm looking to snag me somebody with a supermodel physique, cuz that's not what I'm into. I dig cute girls, and they don't necessarily HAVE to be blonde or Japanese. I was just stating what happens to be what gets my attention the most, that's all, ain't nuthin' wrong with that. My little list, it's open to adjustments and revisions according to God's plans and whatever curve balls the Holy Spirit throws at me to get my attention. Fluidity, not staticness, is key to finding God's will. I know that when God blesses me with a wife, she'll be what I need in my life (not necessarily what I want), but when God blesses, He always adds a little extra, you know? That's what I'm looking forward to.

I hope I've clarified any of my statements for ya. Blessings!

[uc pseudonym]

I don't think he was offended by your post, I'm relatively certain he was referring to mine. Making this assumption, I'll do my best to explain.

First, it was definitely not targeted toward you. I don't even remember what you posted originally, other than the topic of this thread. Furthermore, I stated within the post that I painted with a broad brush, meaning that I'm just lumping everything about looks together, not making the distinction between looks being the most important thing and looks being a plus. Had I been trying to create a balanced post to everyone, I would never have done something to that effect.

Anyway, as someone said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Meaning, someone that's cute to me might not be cute to you. If you truly love them, you'll be physically attracted to them no matter what they look like.

I'm not going to disagree with you, as you're right. However, in this situation, the quality you refer to has absolutely nothing to do with physical appearance anymore, hence your last sentence.

But are you saying you wouldn't want to have a cute wife?

The question is, in my case, strictly academic.

Allow me to put it this way. I am worldly. I'll admit that. Of course I'm attracted to such things. However, let me also put it this way: what about everyone who doesn't fall into the "cute" category? If I state that such things are desirable, I'm essentially telling them that they're worse for something they have no power whatsoever to change. This is the last thing I want to do. So yes, cuteness would never actually make its way onto my list, if such existed.

[Gypsy]

Wow, I'm impressed by almost everyone's responces. Carry on!

[Locke]

wow depresing....

my list changed

-Christian
-anime otaku
-doenst care wat anybody thinks about her
-not quarrel prone

[Retten]

Apparently I start talking and people get depressed. I've been dealing with that my whole life. I doubt I can ever make anyone feel better, which is why I generally keep my trap shut. Glad you understand what's really important, Rev. Doc.

Yeah that's the trouble stating the facts of life isn't it you know a major portion of people believe that the world is just one big happy place but its not and things are only going to get worse so yeah that's kinda depressing but what makes the difference is Jesus he is the real happiness of a Christian and as long as you look to him everyday he will keep you happy now I'm not saying you wont ever be depressed because you probably will but all you got to do in those situation is turn you thoughts over to God! and I like your post UC that was well thought out and it gives the right perspective on "looks"

[cbwing0]

However, let me also put it this way: what about everyone who doesn't fall into the "cute" category? If I state that such things are desirable, I'm essentially telling them that they're worse for something they have no power whatsoever to change.

I have often thought about this, and in a way, you are right. If we take the culturally defined definition of cuteness and apply it to everyone, then some people are going to appear better than others. There is a certain kind of person who is attracted to that ideal, but there are also plenty of people who have different ideas of beauty. If someone is unattractive to me as a result of something that they cannot change, then a relationship is probably not meant to be. It is my belief that a relationship should start out with as many things in its favor as possible, so dating/marrying someone to whom you are not physically attracted is asking for trouble. And, it doesn't take a great deal of observation to realize that different people are attracted to different things, so there is no need to worry about those that we consider to be ugly.

I agree that one's physical appearance is constantly changing for the worse (unless someone becomes physically fit after being unfit for most of their life), but the important thing to remember is that it happens to everybody. That is why it is important to be in a relationship with someone you love based on qualities that are not affected by time in the same way as looks...

...but wait a second. Over time many people lose cognitive ability, or even certain emotions. Although it is not as inevitable as the deterioration of beauty, just about everything else you could like about a person often fades with time. Is this a reason not to consider such qaulities when choosing a mate? No: if it were, we would have no criteria (subjective or objective) on which to base such decisions. Your choice to remain single is admirable, but I can also see how it makes sense based on your views. Everything decays with time; therefore, don't rely on decaying things, including attraction for the opposite sex. Of course this view is biblical in the sense that we should be more concerned with eternal things, but it is not a valid reason for staying single.

In short, I respect your views and your decision to remain single, but I neither accept the flawed conclusions that follow from them or the lifestyle that results. Call me crazy, but I'm willing to take a chance on a decaying, flawed human who will one day be reborn in eternal glory.

[Locke]

hope i can post this....

"ima glutton for the truth, even though truth hurts"-dilated peoples

the song came on the comtemplation cd i got when i bought my cell phone ^^

[Gypsy]

Yeah that's the trouble stating the facts of life isn't it you know a major portion of people believe that the world is just one big happy place but its not and things are only going to get worse so yeah that's kinda depressing but what makes the difference is Jesus he is the real happiness of a Christian and as long as you look to him everyday he will keep you happy now I'm not saying you wont ever be depressed because you probably will but all you got to do in those situation is turn you thoughts over to God! and I like your post UC that was well thought out and it gives the right perspective on "looks"

Yes, I thought uc's post was also in good order. (If you really want a wake-up call about how temporary appearances are - look at a picture of your grandparents! ]

[align=left][size=84]While I firmly believe that reality checks are in order, I don't think that constantly dwelling on the fact that world isn't soft and cuddly is very healthy, both mentally and spiritually. And visa-versa. Life is made up of both grim reality and shining dreams ... why am I even talking about this?!

Back on track! What do you look for in a potential future mate?

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[That Dude]

Wow lot's of deep stuff. Yeah lot's of you guys have really good points. Yup it's what's inside that counts. doesn't matter how they look. Just matters how much they love God and you. Anyways as for me I'm going to stay single unless God says "Hey Michael I wan't you to marry that girl." Then I'll be like "Okey-Dokey God."

[Destroyer2000]

Yes, I was talking about UC's post. Of course, though, his points make sense...it's somewhat like the meat sacrificed to idols, though not completely the same. We all have a few differences in our beliefs, but the main thing is we're all Christian (or so I assume, from everyone's views). There's no point in arguing here over whether petty differences in someone elses views are right or wrong. Let's take this topic back to what it was meant to be: an upbeat, fun topic. Not one that discusses philosiphies. It's gotten a bit too deep and emotional, but I should've predicted that...oh well. Looks do matter, but the amount is according to the person.

[DoMiNiQuE]

hmm lets see.. Im not really into finding "That One" right now.. cuz i like being single.. yyuupp yea.. umm

- Christian ...
- eyes ( I love the color )
- does not have BIG b/o problem (im really picky on that one.. lol)
- really really tall and sort of a deep voice (doesnt matter but the tall-ness , does haha)
- if they arent afriad to say nice things to you or say a simple "hey" in front of other people
- would like to spend time together
- likes the same kinda of music i do
- if play instrument.. like.. band(school) instruments.. or guitar

err i think thats it...

[cbwing0]

Let's take this topic back to what it was meant to be: an upbeat, fun topic. Not one that discusses philosiphies.

Well I find discussing philosophies enjoyable, but that's beside the point. I apologize for turning this into a "debate," but I felt that it was necessary to add a little balance, as things became rather one-sided.

You make a good point, though. There are certain things that come down to a choice. You could argue forever about the "right" decision, but the truth is that both have merit. This is the case with marriage (at least between Christians).

[Destroyer2000]

[Quote=cbwing0]I apologize for turning this into a "debate," but I felt that it was necessary to add a little balance, as things became rather one-sided.
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Hey, no prob. Balance is a good thing, lol.

[lobsterbucket]

Well, a girl would have to be
1) Nice
2) Be able to stand me
3) We would have to be genuinely interested in eachother and not just going through the motions
4) Connect

My anime girlfriend/wife would have to be Rinoa Heartilly from FF8 or... maybe Raka from Haibane Renmei.