So my friend's slowly dying... for the past 3 years.

[Slater]

I'm having a hard time feeling sadness over this since I haven't seen my friend, Jamie, for--mmm--about 8 or 9 years, but I'm very angry over it.

I've known her since we were in Kindergarten; we went to school together up to the 8th grade. She's a nice person; but we went to different high schools and that was it except for her birthday party back in 2001.

Well, just today, I found out that she's been suffering from cancer for the past 3 years, and that it's metastasized to the point where she's confined to the hospital. I'm mad because, from what I've gathered, everyone down to my parents have known about this for the past 3 years, but nobody bothered to tell me.

And it's oh-so puzzling, how someone could do so well in school and stuff and then have something like this happen to her at age 21... or, rather, 18 I guess. It's hard to understand how this could just happen.

I mean, here we are at the beginning of our adulthood, when we're supposed to begin acquiring true wisdom about the world around us, and life can get cut off before that happens. It's nothing new in the world, but I guess I never imagined that it could happen to a real living, breathing person that I've been with for a large portion of my life.

Luckily she is saved. No, not luckily. Thank-God-ily; use it, we need that word in the dictionary.

"Cherish your life while you're still around."

[KeybladeWarrior]

Maybe it is her time to go? I dunno. I will pray that she will get better and that God gives the doctors the way of treating the cancer.

[Kurama]

Aww I am so sorry to hear that. But maybe it is her time. I will pray this will all go smoothly.

[Prince Asbel]

I think I would feel angry if a friend of mine had cancer and nobody told me about it. The best advice I can give you is try and get this sentiment through to your family and tell them how this hurt you. Other than that, all I can say is that these things happen, and you happen to be one of the unfortunate people that are appointed to go through it. I'll pray for you, okay?

[Esoteric]

I am very sorry. While I'm surprised that your parents didn't tell you, but know that it's often very hard to decide what to do in such situations. Sometimes I think people avoid saying anything because they don't want to burden you, or have you treat them differently. It is perhaps even a small measure of denial, where they just want things to go on the way they've always been. I'm not saying it was the best choice, but for her sake, don't feel too angry about being kept in the dark. Try and be glad that you know now, while there's still a little time left. Again, I am very sorry, and I mean that.

[Tsukuyomi]

I really hate when that happens -_- I'm also one who is ALWAYS the last to know o.o It really hurts too. Especially, when it's something as important as.. that >_> All you can do now is to be there for her ^_^ I'm sorry that you found out so late I'll be praying that all works out ^__^

[Syreth]

I knew a guy in youth group who I was just becoming good friends with who died just after his 16th birthday. He was a strong believer, a smart guy and as healthy as a horse in every way except for the brain tumor he had. But his life made a difference. He was his parent's oldest son, and so after losing him they decided to adopt children from troubled homes. After his funeral his grandpa got saved, which was one of his dying wishes. And so, all things work together for good, even though the steps along the way aren't easy.

Good things can result, even from things as horrible as death at a young age. That's awesome that your friend is a believer, by the way.

[Nikolai Melodie]

I agree in the awesomeness about your friend being a believer... when people get sick like that, you know... either they loose faith in god completely, or they latch onto him with all their heart.... I'm sure there's a middle ground, but from what I've seen, that's what happens a lot...

I know... it's strange when things like this happens. Maybe you should talk to someone about it? =) Praying for you and for her.

[Doubleshadow]

A friend of mine died her senior year died while I was away for a week. They buried her and didn't tell me until I got back. We had gone to church, girl scouts, and school together. My parents said, "Oh yeah, your brother was a pallbearer and sang with the choir at her funeral." Well thanks for telling me before I did something stupid like ask her mother how she was doing or something!
People in our general age group are famous for their "I live forever" mentality. It's obvious we know that's not true, but for most people it doesn't sink in. I lost a schoolmate in the eighth grade, my friend her senior year, and almost lost my brother his freshmen year of college. It's a reminder that while we are normally told by our society we should live long, happy lives, that is not the point of living. We need live a life that has meaning; it's length means nothing. This isn't our real home after all.

[KeybladeWarrior]

I really hate when that happens -_- I'm also one who is ALWAYS the last to know o.o It really hurts too. Especially, when it's something as important as.. that >_> All you can do now is to be there for her ^_^ I'm sorry that you found out so late I'll be praying that all works out ^__^

Who cares if you are the last to know. At least you are trying to help.

I can't really say this deeply saddens me, but I am concerned.