Romantic Love?

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Postby Haibane Shadsie » Fri Dec 05, 2003 5:48 pm

Only skimmed most of this thread...

As for the orignal topic... I can't really say... I've never really been in love. I do have a long distance, online boyfriend, but... I'm not sure if we are drifting apart or will drift apart... you see, I don't think he's saved... He says he has some of the same beliefs that I do, but... I don't think he's really a Christian... and unless something happens, well, I cannot be unevenly yolked. So yeah... I've been praying... pray for me?

As for romantic love... I totally dissagree with MillyFan. Sorry, girl. I do think there is something in romantic love that is not merely lust, and that it is a gift of God for men and women. I understand where you are coming from, being a romantically "cold" person myself. The prospects of doing the typical "getting married and having kids" thing.. scares me to death. I've never been kissed. I am 24. I am happy as a single, celebate person and a loner. I sometimes feel weird being a virgin at my age, because of what the world/society tells us about that... (which is WRONG), but, you know, getting into those kind of relationships is just too complicated, and will, with me, wind up painful for everyone involved. Still, I think that for those who have it, romantic love is a good thing. I think MillyFan needs to re-read Song of Solomon :sweat:


On the topic of writerly advice... what she said was right... research is good, especially speaking with people who've experienced what your charcters have. I'll share my experience in writing my original novel. The main character happens to be a mother. When I shared the first chapters with my writer's club, the members of the club found a lot of her reactions and apparent lack of emotion unrealistic. I was not writing my character well because... I have never been a mother. I got the advice to talk with mothers, (including members of my writer's club)... I have since added and have been adding things to my novel to develop my character more, and to give her more realisitc emotion and reactions - from information gleaned from speaking with mothers I know and asking them how they would act and feel in my character's situation. (My sister and a good friend of mine were great help!). Now, my character is a lot more developed, and my writer's club has noted my improvements in writing her. Writing... is a combination mainly of reasearch and imagination. There is the old addage of "write what you know", which holds true - it is best to base your writing on what you personally know and feel... but it is possible to write, and to write well, things that you do not know - with the right reasearch and imagination.

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Postby Lochaber Axe » Fri Dec 05, 2003 6:02 pm

I really have to say that there is not need for this thread anymore. We have answered Chris's questions over and over (Chris do not take this as offensive, your questions are valid and you did not seem repetitive to me about it. If you have been offended please pm me and I shall correct my folly.) with our opinions, ran around in circles, and even an arguement broke out.

It would best to end it as thus:

The definition of Romantic love is subjective. It could be only classified in lust and sex, it could be non-sexual intimacy, or it could be defined in other ways that I have no idea on. It is how you believe it to be that is important and really doesn't matter if you listen to the word of God. He will show you the path you should take on this very precarious issue. Follow him and you shall not stumble.

Chris, when the right one comes around it will hit you like a bag of bricks, and there will be no mistake in it. This is my opinion of course since that has not happened to me yet, but I believe that my love for my wife will know no bounds when she comes around. Do not dwell on it for it shall answer itself in due time.

I am not a mod but I see that this will only lead to arguements about what love means and such, and should be discussed by the use of PMs. If anything pm me and I shall give you what wisdom I can give or you can talk with people who have witnessed this blessing first hand.

If anything, take it up with the one who gave us the ability to love.

Oh and on writing, why don't we take this to the appropriate thread. Shadsie, this is not meant to be offensive, but this will only lead to off topic discussions. If anything, I will create the appropriate thread.
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Postby Mithrandir » Fri Dec 05, 2003 6:11 pm

Yeah. I agree. Let's let it go.
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Postby Ashley » Fri Dec 05, 2003 6:19 pm

topic closed so a clean, pleasent thread goes to the archives.
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Postby Stephen » Fri Dec 05, 2003 8:39 pm

It takes a good bit to make me laugh at someones ignorance....Milly you gave me a good laugh when I got in from work. I do not normaly post on closed threads..because I feel they were finalized. However..this instance will get a special post. Like has been said by other members in the past...why don't you try reading posts in segments. I mentioned the PM thing not as some sort of accusation..but because I figured telling you to do anything was useless. (as you never give a flying rip what a staff member says here) So get your panties out of a bunch and come back down off your soap box.

"I also intended to slap no one on the staff in the face-I was simply referring to a fanfiction that was well-written but definitely not CAA or underage material in my general post on writing good fanfiction."

You dear missed my entire point...my point was the staff was sick and tired of hearing you whine about "I might get banned for saying this" as you have said on many many posts on many many different threads. *read things properly before you fly off the handle* Now quoting scripture...that is somthing that is quite bold...also hypocritical in your case. Considering the fact that you defend perverted anime to anyone that will listen. Did you even read the scriptures that you quoted to me? Or did we just take a spin on the net...and punch in "scriptures on slander" Yeah...quote me some more Milly.

" 1 Corinthians 5:11 But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat."

Yeah...that shonin stuff is real moral....oh wait...I'm sorry I am not suposed to point things out while your busy condeming me. My bad. The only thing I apologize for...is letting this go on as long as I have. You have no respect for authority. (read your Bible more kiddo) Yet you want to quote scripture to me about slander, when I simply make the statement that I figured you knew how to use the PM system. (which by the way...at the time I did not have a big deal with you sharing links with someone over a PM rather then on site...but again, you read my post wrong...somthing you excel at. As for BrianC, he decided to leave CAA after we have given him many chances. He was banned for a week early on in his stay here after he flew into Ashleys face for no reason...Brian had a problem disagreeing without going nuts on the board. Anger managment? Thats pretty funny. Your lucky your wrong, because if I was an angry person I would have banned you months ago and acted like an angry child. However I am a forgiving person that can let things go. But because you read a few posts i make, you have the right to judge me, heck why don't you judge me some more. As for the bullying issue...thats pretty funny...because if you had a clue what you were talking about you would realise how foolish a statement that is...why don't you talk to some of the mods that are in staff meetings we have...when I am willing to give people a chance when nobody else will...since you brought Brian C up...who do you think gave Brian that huge second chance? Ashley? Nope...she felt like he should be banned for good. It was me that said ya know...were all human..we all make bad choices...lets give the guy a second chance...but you would not know that...because you don't see everything that goes on behind the scenes here at CAA...but you run that mouth like you think you do.. You talk about how I would be banned on other message boards...thats pretty funny considering I am on....over 12 as we speak. Yup 12 message boards...I rather like them. You want to talk forum issues? You are a flammer. One of the worst I have seen on ANY forum. Running around Psuedo mod. Calling anything a troll that even breathes wrong.

"I'm sorry about this, but I'm trying to handle it in the most Christian manner I can. I've talked to you privately (as much as you would allow me), "

If I am a bully and a slander, then add liar to your list of sins. Because last time I checked I have recieved maybe 1 PM from you since the site has been here. But hey, you hate having anyone point out anything wrong in you. When that finger is pointed at me and your screaming slander...remember you have 3 pointing back at you. You mentioned being not guilty in the eyes of God...so you say He watches what you do on forums...thats cool, and right. Does He close his eyes when you watch gay anime? No wait...I know what your going to say...since any attraction is lust...that means if 2 Christians are dating...and they find each other attractive...there lusting...and sinning. Thus, gay people who are not married are the same, right? Sins sin as you put it. You have perverted love....somthing that was God created. But, since you like to quote scripture...allow me.






Romans 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.


1 Corinthians 6:9 ¶ Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate(for those who dont know what that means that means gays), nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13:7 Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spken unto you the word of God whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation.

Hebrews 13:17 Obey them that have rule over you, and submit yourselves:for they watch for your souls , as they that must give account(we take that very very serious on this site), that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.

1 Timothy 5:17-18 Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine
For the scripture saith, thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, the labourer is worthy of his reward


Romans 14:10 But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand beforethe judgement seat of Christ.

Romans 14:12-13 So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God (13) Let us not therefore judgeone another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brothers way.


So there we go...a few Scrip on Homosexuality (cause I think you need to read some more Bible before you spout it) Some on respecting authority..which you really don't care about. And some about judgement. I am done with this Milly, you don't know what your talking about when it comes to me it seems...because if you did you would not say some of the things you do. When you get back from your week ban from the site, (which btw was done by those other..non-bully mods and admins while I was at work) I hope this is done with. But of course feel free to PM me...(really PM me this time...don't just say you do) Should anyone else have something to add to this, feel free to PM me. I am always up for a PM. :thumb:
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Postby Stephen » Sat Dec 06, 2003 3:27 pm

Ok, I have decided to edit that last post. I have recieved quite a few PM's over the past few days...other staff members have recieved countless IM convos. It seems everyone has an opinion on what I said and how I said it. Having given this a great deal of thought, I would like to apologize to the members of CAA for how I said what I said. It should have been done in PM. I would reopen this thread for comments...but I really do not think that needs to be done. Everyone pretty much feels one way or the other...So this thread can just fade into oblivion now. Brother In Christ

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