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advice?

PostPosted: Sun Jun 06, 2004 3:58 pm
by Aijou
I really don't want to talk about my family in a negative way, but I live with foster parents who are not Christians. Sometimes it can be very difficult. I don't know how to stay motivated sometimes. As for my biological parents, I am not in contact with them, and they are not Christians, either. So I really cannot seek advice from them. I talked to my foster mom about my beliefs once, and she got very angry. Sometimes I find myself adapting to their ways of living instead of the right ways (not that they are wrong all the time ... but you know what I mean). So that is my problem. I was just curious as to how some of you stay committed when things seem difficult and you sort of feel like you are alone.

(I decided to edit this, to make it more understandable. I didn't want to say anything that someone might have accidentally come across and read. I would have felt really bad. Sorry if I was unclear or confused some of you).

PostPosted: Sun Jun 06, 2004 4:34 pm
by PotBelliedCow
Hmmm...if the people you live with aren't Christians, you can either convince them about the faith, or if all else fails, ask for a ride to church every Sunday. Are you talking about yourself or about someone you know?

Anyways, I'll be praying...

PostPosted: Sun Jun 06, 2004 4:54 pm
by Aijou
About myself :P (note edited post above).

PostPosted: Sun Jun 06, 2004 8:00 pm
by ssj2gohan61
i say make a bunch of christian friends join youth group... bible studies and fellowship with everyone.. they will be like your second family many of them will become close as or even closer then your family

PostPosted: Mon Jun 07, 2004 9:08 am
by CobaltAngel
Yeah, SSJ's advice was good I think. I'm not the best in the world when it comes to giving advice about things like this, but I will pray for you.

PostPosted: Mon Jun 07, 2004 6:19 pm
by Rogie
Pray.

Okay, so that sounds really simple, but unless you do that, you'll never figure it all out. And you may be doing this already; if so, keep waiting and be patient. Otherwise, just witness to both your parents and those that they live with by being yourself (i.e. a Christian) and show them love. Don't condone anything sinful, but lovingly avoid or walk away from any situation that is sinful. I think you might find that doing this may have a greater impact on them than just talking to them about the Lord.

I'll pray for you!

PostPosted: Wed Jun 09, 2004 8:28 am
by Aijou
Cow: Thank you, I appriciate your support.

Gohan: I agree, that makes sense. I will work harder on doing that.

Cobalt: I'm not good at giving advice for things like this either, but I guess that's why I'm asking other people for advice *lol* thanks for praying.

Rogie: You are absolutely right. As simple as it sounds, praying is important and it does work. I do not pray as much as I should. Sometimes, I don't pray at all. I think part of my problem is my fault, because I do not do my part, and I cannot put the blame on everyone else. It is difficult though, without someone to guide you, and not praying will definately not help the situation. You are also right about being who I am. When people do not want to listen, it is best to show them instead. Especially with the kind of person my foster mom is (stubborn, opinionated). That would be my best bet. I don't want anyone to think that I don't love my foster parents, I just wish they understood the truth. They have taught me many things, and I am very grateful. My foster mom told me that since I came to live with her, she has learned a lot. She used to yell at us, but now she talks things out. She's changed some things in her life, and I didn't even realize it had to do with me until she told me. She does believe in God, so that's a plus. She also believes I was put in her family to teach her things and that I am living with her for a "purpose." So I suppose that could be true. Maybe there is still more for us to teach each other. Anyway, thanks for your post.