Bitter Towards my Little Brother

[Sapphire225]

Lately, I've been feeling more apathetic and bitter towards my little brother. He's only thirteen but he has already started severing the bond between him and I, as well as my sister somewhat. I can't bring myself to trust him, especially after what he did a week ago (He plagiarized his paper for english and was suspended. He would have been expelled if he were in public school and lied about it three times until my mom and his teacher had a conference where he had no choice but to tell the truth), which I know is understandable but he keeps complaining how we don't trust him and that he thinks he deserves our trust.

But honestly, he's lied and stolen from me so many times in the past, I can barely stand to be in the same room with him at times unless I'm playing a videogame. He continues to complain about not getting what he wants even when he realizes he doesn't deserve the thing he wants, especially after he lied to mom about the paper and kept on complaining about how he doesn't need glasses when he quite obviously does.

What made me bitter towards him the most was when he called the police on dad because he lied to my aunt and bought a BB gun, despite dad saying he can't and got a spanking. After the spanking he complained how he never got what he wanted with dad and the both of them got into a huge arguement. This happend during the summer.

Please pray for him to stop lying and for him to realize what he is doing is wrong and stop, as well as for me to let go of the grudge I'm holding against him, as although I still don't trust him, I'm beginning to dislike him a lot more than I should.

[Ella Edric]

I understand about being bitter, as I struggle with the same thing. Feel free to PM me about it.

Also, praying!

[bkilbour]

My little brother and I went through the same thing until he was ten. I once got so mad at him that I slapped him. I slapped a seven year old. I wish that I had never done that, and that I had been a better big brother to him.
Even if he is older than seven, please don't make the same mistake that I did. If you have to avoid him for a bit until things cool down (a la Jacob and Esau), then so be it - that would be better than allowing his behaviour to make yours worse.

I will pray about this, that you may both have peace, and that your brother will start treating you better.

[Sapphire225]

My little brother and I went through the same thing until he was ten. I once got so mad at him that I slapped him. I slapped a seven year old. I wish that I had never done that, and that I had been a better big brother to him.
Even if he is older than seven, please don't make the same mistake that I did. If you have to avoid him for a bit until things cool down (a la Jacob and Esau), then so be it - that would be better than allowing his behaviour to make yours worse.

I will pray about this, that you may both have peace, and that your brother will start treating you better.

You have no idea how close I came to slapping him one time, had it not been for my sister, I would have done just that. I'm so glad you let me know this.

What scares me most about my little brother is that he is impressionable and that there is a possibility that he'd join a gang. Given that my older cousins and some of my cousins aren't making the right decisions (Dating and living with a drug-dealer, joining a gang, getting pregnant before 21, etc.) I'm really afraid he'll go done that path.

[Atria35]

Praying. Since he's hit teenagerdom, I suspect it'll be harder for him to come to those realizations. Is there a youth pastor or someone close to him that could possibly reach him?

There's a lot of anger and tension in my house, too- what keeps me going is knowing that while I love my family- I will always love them- nothing on this planet says you have to like them.

[Okami]

I'm in a similar situation, so you certainly aren't alone. I'll be keeping you in prayers; God grant us some sanity.

[TheMewster]

Woah, just prayed for ya. Remember to show God's mercy, love, and grace to your brother. Like somebody said, try to find a youth pastor or mentor for him. God bless you!