Pray for my idiot friend.

Postby **PumpkinKoRn52** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 6:48 pm

Pray for my friend. He is an idiot. He was dating this girl for 4 months, and she was stalking him the whole time. He had to take a different car whenever he wanted to do anything without her, cause she would drive by his house and make sure he was there. He finally broke up with her in july, after dating for six months. She wanted him to run away with her and marry her, when he didn't even have a job. He broke up with her and she tried to kill herself. Instead of staying away from her, and cutting her off, he took her back. He moved out a few weeks later, with his cousin, and then she stalked him even more. She would stay with him till he left for work, and then she would follow him there and back. He finally was so sick and tired of her, he told her to never see him again. She then tried to kill him. He took her back a week later, then she cheated on him, only a week after that. He broke up with he again. Now, only a week later, he is going to get married to her. He thinks it's his fault she stalks him, and it was alright that she cheated on him. He is an idiot. I don't know why I care anymore.

Postby **c.t.,girl** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 6:53 pm

becuz he's your friend. i will pray for you, your friend and his...um...gf.

Postby **Golden_Griff** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 6:57 pm

I'll pray for your friend, but I think the one that needs prayer the most in this situation is that girlfriend of his--that's crazy! :wow!:

I guess he's a little bit confused or fearful for and of her and he feels that he has to marry her to keep her from doing anything more insane than she already is doing.

Well, Dear God let him know it doesn't have to be that way at all!

Postby **CobaltAngel** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 7:05 pm

Wow... that's kinda disturbing. I've had friends from middle school that kinda stalked me when I got differant friends in high school, but this is more... life-threatening >.>. I'll definitly pray for him to do what he thinks God is guiding him to do. I'm glad you posted this, and its great that you care before you could. This is a really screwed up situation and I'm sorry but this girl sounds liek a psycho and she definitly needs Jesus. @_@

Postby **agasfas** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 7:20 pm

You care because he's your friend. It's like the old saying "love makes people do stupid things." It seems like she may need to get some help one way or another, but marriage isn't the answer. To be honest, like you I don't understand his reasoning. If you haven't yet, I would sit down and have a man to man talk and explain that marriage may not be the best option. Just keep praying for him. I will also pray for your friend and his girlfriend.

Postby **dareiq s'an** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 7:31 pm

Your friends gf has major issues...he needs prayers...

Postby **JediSonic** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 7:37 am

That whole story sounds totally insane.. like something out of a dream. I'll pray for the 2 of them though, and hopefully your friend will come to his sense and help the girl to do the same before something she actually succeeds in killing someone!

Postby **Kat Walker** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 7:56 am

The absolute last thing that anyone with mental problems that severe needs to be doing is getting married.

Tell your friend - if there's still time - that marrying her will not alleviate these problems. Things will only get more messed up. He doesn't owe her anything, he isn't he cause of her mental instability and he shouldn't let himself be manipulated or guilt-tripped into making such a huge mistake.

I've had situations much like this, both when I was dating the person and when the affections were one-sided. Really immature, selfish, and disturbed people are so desperate that they'll go to insane lengths...

Let me warn from experience -- there was one guy I knew back in high school who was very much like that girl. I had befriended him, he was a decent guy at first...but then the stalking. He would follow me around. EVERYWHERE. Bother me...ALL THE TIME. I didn't have a moment's peace. I had to let him down gently MULTIPLE times, and when I finally got tired of it and had to be rather blunt and direct with him, things got out of control really fast. First it was the obligatory "I'm going to commit suicide if you don't love me!" act, naturally. When nobody took him that seriously, he began rumor-mongering. Things to the effect of me being a tramp, using him, cheating on him, etc....the fact that he actually got some people to believe we had even gone out to begin with speaks volumes about his ability to manipulate --a strange trait for someone so socially inept.

Anyway, after that he launched a personal assault against me by going to my friends. He managed to convince a lot of them to hate me, and even worse made my job as swim team captain next to impossible by spreading it to them as well. There were a lot of really lame politics going on at the time as well, so naturally people latched onto any excuse to make my life hellish. He. made. my. life. suck. To put it nicely. He also managed to get some of my internet friends to join the assault...the last people I had left, the only ones I thought seperated from this whole mess.

A very loyal one, however, gave me an AIM conversation one day. In it, this guy had given my friend really detailed "plans" on killing me and shooting up the school. This was just the thing I needed to stop him -- I immediately printed it out and sent it to the principal. He had a conference with the counselor, administration, and his parents present...which throroughly embarassed him, and got him into a lot of trouble. With my luck, I was not so fortunate to have him expelled or even sent to some much-needed therapy...but it seemed to help things die down. He had sadly taken over many of the friends I had, who were starting to act as unstable and immature as he was, and none of them would ever miss an opportunity to harass me -- but I think it sank through the many layers of cranium that he was a loser, he knew it, and he either needed to get a life or it was the "happy house" for him.

Anyway, this woman doesn't love your friend. She loves her obsession. She loves attention and anything that can momentarily squelch her rampant insecurity. Tell him that, and DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO STOP THIS WEDDING!!!!

Good luck. ^^;;;

Website · Postby **bakura_fan** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 8:30 am

I agree with Kat. Marriage should not be used to fix a problem...Marriage is something that should be done after a mutual agreement...Not being forced. I will be praying. Please....try and convince your friend that his choice to go into marriage right now is not a good idea. Remind him that he will be making a commitment to this girl. Also.....ask him to think about his future. If he marries her and then wants to get divorced....if she's off the deep end now....just wait till that time comes...Or if she ever thinks he's cheating on her....Getting married will just give her a bigger excuse to stalk him. Because in her mind, he would belong to her...and she would make sure that no one else could have him. Sorry...but...that is how I see the situation...He gets married now...it's all down hill from there....Again...I will definitly pray.

Postby **Zarn Ishtare** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 9:21 am

As a certain friend of mine once said...

"Wow...They must have eaten the wrong mushrooms, or somthin."

Meanswhile, I am still without a girlfriend....

(Shakes his head)

Postby **PumpkinKoRn52** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 11:58 am

I think he is also marrying her because he's in fear for her life as well. Every time he has tried to break up with her she either tried to kill herslef or said she would. I think he doesn't want a life in his hands, and deal with all hte guilt.

Postby **termyt** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 1:18 pm

That is messed up. I'm sorry for the grief this is causing you. I wish I could help your idiot friend. I pray that it works out to the glory of the Lord, I wish I knew how to pray for more.

Postby **JediSonic** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 4:44 pm

If he doesnt want a life in his hands, he shouldnt be getting married. You might wanna tell him that!

Postby **Mave** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 4:50 pm

I don't remember anyone recommending marriage in order to prevent suicides. It is ridiculous. I could say more, but I'll keep this short: I'll pray about this and hope for a peaceful solution.

Postby **PumpkinKoRn52** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 5:48 pm

I can't get in touch with him though, No one can. He has dissapeared.

Postby **Rogie** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 7:59 pm

Tsk, tsk. I don't know what has gotten into kids these days. These whippersnappers... Sorry, kind of went into geezer mode there. Seriously, though, I will pray for both him and the girlfriend.

Now for my daily fiber...

Postby **Swordguy** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 9:42 pm

i will pray

Pray for my idiot friend.

Pray for my idiot friend.

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