Lonely

Postby **raider~joseph** » Mon Apr 18, 2011 9:10 pm

I have been so lonely as I have to terms as I may be the only under age otaku gamer nerd in my town.Or even the planet.Im so lonely...being socially awkward and nerdy sucks.I have friends at work(who may pity me).But I am so afraid of it being a lie I give constant complemants.Even if they had "TIME" to hang out we are so diffrent.I meet someone who is into it and either A:Be forbidden by parents by some unforseen deus ex machina or B:see them so little that we are casual buddies at best. My dad resents my likes because my uncles are all sad cases and they like what I like.I love my dad but he has to trust me.He hates everything nerdy.He would hate you all if he knew you.Seriously.I know he is just worried but he shouldn't be because I do NOT intend to end up like them.Also because this town is otakuless.I am so alone its not funny.I tear up in secret...when no one is around.But im so stupid and nerdy that I couldn't make friends...everyone in my town is either a jock or a drone.I am going back to school next year from homeschool and I am so scared of being alone again.I can't take it.Why can't I be a drone at least I would blend in.I am SCARED.WHAT DO I DO?

Postby **Atria35** » Mon Apr 18, 2011 9:22 pm

I'm pretty sure that you are here on this site, and therefore know that you aren't the only otaku nerd gamer on the planet.

One of the things that can help (and I know how this is going to sound, please bear with me) is developing other interests. I have several interests that I cultivate outside of otaku-dom and being into reading. Take a chance. I did fencing recreationally after school in HS because it was a way to meet people and get excercize. And there's something very satisfying about hitting people with metal sticks that you can't really recreate in a video game.

Unless you're in a small town, you probably don't know all the kids there. You might be surprised. I'm sure that they aren't all 'drones' as you call them. Definitely attempt to find common ground with ones you don't know yet. And see what extracurricular activities they offer.

Postby **goldenspines** » Mon Apr 18, 2011 9:32 pm

The only good advice I have to beat loneliness is giving your troubles to Jesus and letting Him give you peace.

As a general note, it's okay if your friends have very different interests than you. You can still be friends even if they don't like anime/video games.

Regardless, I'll be praying. I hope things work out for you.

Postby **raider~joseph** » Mon Apr 18, 2011 9:54 pm

I tried the other intrests by doing martial arts.Its fun and I meet two otakus but guess what?Remember how I said I am the only UNDERAGE otaku gamer?Try finding someone underage who is into this stuff.I did a few times.It hurt because they were taken away from me one at a time.I keep contact but its not the same...there not here.They can't help me from being alone if they are not here.And true I don't know everyone but I might as well.I have met people and observed them from work and I gotta say...pop culture drones is the most likely result.I sometimes wish I wasn't me.You know.I wouldn't care about pairings,EV training,or masterchief(except the guns and blood.).The only good that came from it is not bullying anyone.Once you go through it you never want to do it to another.

Postby **ADXC** » Mon Apr 18, 2011 11:12 pm

Gotta tell you something. I've made many new friends in college, but most of them share very few of the same interests that I have so it is good to broaden your horizons a bit.

It is possible to make friends with people of completely different backgrounds and that also usually makes it more fun in figuring out who they are as a person. Because really, if the world were just filled with people of the same exact background, values, and etc. then that would be a very boring world.

Even though these people may seem like drones, just talk to them and get to know them. They may actually surprise you.

In the past I got hung over, "well since there is no one else who likes what I like means I cannot make friends with anyone else." But now I've grown past this and while realizing I cannot possibly become a friend to everyone (Believe me, there are just some people who are hard to deal with.), I open myself to others and hope they do the same. If not, then I just move on to the next person.

Postby **Riggidig** » Tue Apr 19, 2011 3:01 am

I would suggest in widening your spectrum of interests so that they don't JUST include anime and gaming. You're isolating yourself by looking for people who are just interested in one or two things. I isolated myself back in high school because I was ONLY interested in gaming. It's a turn-off for other people if it seems like that's all you're into. On the other hand it makes you more approachable if you have a wider variety of interests.

Postby **Riggidig** » Tue Apr 19, 2011 3:02 am

I would suggest in widening your spectrum of interests so that they don't JUST include anime and gaming. You're isolating yourself by looking for people who are just interested in one or two things. I isolated myself back in high school because I was ONLY interested in gaming. It's a turn-off for other people if it seems like that's all you're into. On the other hand it makes you more approachable if you have a wider variety of interests.

Postby **Riggidig** » Tue Apr 19, 2011 3:10 am

Mods please delete the repeat post (including this one). Not sure what happened there...

Postby **fermy6** » Tue Apr 19, 2011 9:55 am

Only advice i can give is to pray for friends ( But seek first the Kingdom of Heaven) and also put yourself out there for people to know you....I'll also be praying..... PLEASE PM me if you need help....I know what its like being awkward and lonely but I'm not like that anymore:angel:

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